Those, like myself, who have been victimized, and bullied for most my life know what it means to be bullied, and also what bullies are really like. To be honest, bullies are losers and crazy, and their intent is as it seems-to destroy you, and make you suffer because they are fearful or jealous of what you are, have, or represent. Bullying is their power and escape from their own hate, selfish fears,and stupidity.
I have always been picked on because I am a smart, nice, good, moral, liberal and conservative, friendly, enthusiastic person. I am also different in terms of my race, my beliefs, and my lifestyle, a non comformist by nature. I am special, original and likable, fit in with a nice, normal, sane, responsible society, exactly what a bully does not. I do my best, deserve, as we all do, the best. Due to the mean, and low tactics of bullies, this is something that took me my whole life, and at many times, nearly cost me my life, trying to figure out, and just as long to feel okay about. It honestly was very tough for me.
I am lucky to have survived, but as an adult, I still have to fight the anger and upset, I feel in regard to the memories, and the occurrences. I can rationalize them now, and understand they’re is only unjust fear, jealousy and envy behind those hate filled words, and desires, but while it is easy to ignore those who bully you, it is hard to ignore the feelings they can create in you.
For many who are bullied, to escape these, killing themselves is the only escape, and answer, and sadly, too often, this is what happens. I guess I have always been blessed with a clear, and definite awareness, that it’s bullies who are wrong, weak, bad people, not me. I had no self esteem, but I did, deep inside, still believe and care about myself, something bullies couldn’t take away. It did take me years to figure out why I was so often bullied, and a lifetime to break free of the effects of their tactics (depression, apathy, anger, self isolation and alienation, mistrust, lack of self esteem, confidence, self harming behaviors, addiction, disorder).
It’s hard to stand up to bullies and thrive, and without family or friends to support you, it can be that much worse. I eventually got through it, and I hope that all others, who are being victimized and tormented by bullies, will too be able to get through it, survive, and recover. It is true- things do get better.
Until recently, bullying is not taken seriously enough in our society which was too bad. Bullying kills, and it causes many good and needy children, people to suffer and sometimes die. It is not a compliment to any society to have a culture that allows bullies to thrive and conquer. The most chilling example of this is the rise of the Nazi party in Germany in the 1940’s.
The Nazis were bullies with all the same mean, and stupid logic of all bullies, and the same ferocity of their own want behind them. They were no different that the children who taut and torment a classmate, because that child is smarter, more popular or a different race or class, just as they are no different than the pedophiles and child abusers who steal, abuse and murder our children, or the men who beat and murder their wives. This is why bullying and our attitudes toward it need to be looked at.
If we live in a society that is okay with bullies, support their “rights”, demands, and wishes, ignore or dismiss the pleas and tales of those being victimized, then we are a society that will foster, and thrive the will of bullies. This has been proven by our times, and the long lists of those who have been victimized, and murdered by them, their aims and campaigns.
It is hard for those who bully, and those who support them to look at bullying, because the feelings behind bullying are want, envy and jealousy, and no one wants to admit to that. In turn, it’s a weak society that lives in fear and apathy, and allows bullies to be, as the easiest way of dealing with them. It is wrong as bullying, and I truly believe all of the evil in our world is a result of bullies, their desires and aims, and the apathy of society.
Bullying is still a major power in our world. The rise of right wing white supremist power in Britain, Islamaphobia in the United States as well as the countless examples of child, animal and woman abuse in the news are clear examples of it. Child abusers, and pedophiles, are extreme examples of bullies, as are those who protest the rights of other religions to worship and co-exist. Both are prevelant, and real threats in our society, and it is time to put an end to it all. We are living in a great new world, one that is moral, ethical, concerned and caring. A world that cannot progress and rise if it continues to allow, and even elect bullies.
To those of angry and hate filled spirit, and low and limited mentality, this article may be seen as a real threat, as victims of bullies do not often speak up. We do not vent our rage, and anger. We do not express our awareness and understanding about it, and we do not share our hope and vision of a better world.
Bullying does make me angry, just as it used to make me afraid. I am an adult now but still am myself, and that I guess is enough to make me still a target for bullies. I have learnt to ignore it, and to just keep enjoying myself and my life, but there are times when it is still too much, too large or just to crazy for me to do so.
I am a survivor of bullying, both from our society, and culture, and by individuals. I know that as long as we live in a society that does not take bullying seriously, it will continue. I am able now to understand that it’s jealousy and want behind the bullies name calling and insults; it is clear and ever present. I lived in fear for many years of those vicious feelings. They stole years from my life. I am lucky, because I survived. I never used to dream of getting helped because I was so bullied, I never believed it was possible, I had no understanding of it.
As an adult survivor, I want to be the opposite. I want to be what all survivors can be, a symbol of the hope, and the positive result that happens when someone does get the care, and help they need, when they begin to fight back, when the facts of their lives are understood, and people care enough to help stop it. I survived because of all these things, and now I am ready to start the healing process.
It is true what they say, healing happens through giving, and I hope my words, and feelings begin the healing, and helping process within myself, and in others as well.
I pray that those who are living with bullying, and torment can, and will get the help they need. I pray that we, as a society and world, come to understand that all of us, especially the good, innocent, bullied, and powerless, need to be heard, and that we all come to understand that protection, love and understanding for the needy is our job, as much as caring for ourselves, and our planet.
We have alot, and we have alot to give and it is the time and century when giving and understanding will make out time together here on earth as great and wondrous as God intended it to be. This is the dream for humanity that I have and I know many others share. It is possible and it is the time for us to do it.
Here’s are some links to children who didn’t survive being bullied:
http://www.bullyonline.org/schoolbully/cases.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Reena_Virk
http://www.nypost.com/p/news/regional/bullies_killed_my_girl_43xSAT5q6DekFKkk7aEgJJ
http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/04/23/bullying.suicide/
